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Christine Miserandino created the spoon theory to help explain her invisible illness to the world. It has changed the way thousands of people explain their illnesses. You are given an allotment of spoons, which stand in for energy. When your spoons run out, you have no more energy to do things throughout the day. If you try to force extra energy, you often end up removing spoons from the next day, leaving you depleted.

A few authors have doubled down on the Spoon Theory by adding F*cks. You see, some days you have enough spoons to do the things that you want to do, but you have no f*cks to give. When that happens, things might get done, but you don’t care about them.

More often, you have f*cks, but no spoons. You end up caring too much and are physically unable to do all the things that you care to do. F*cks without spoons can leave you feeling depressed and worthless, even though you aren’t.

A f*cks but no spoons day is often followed by a day with no f*cks and no spoons. Nothing gets done these days. You have no energy to do the things, and no f*cks to care about them. Sometimes this results in a surplus of f*cks and spoons later in the week, but not always on the same day.

There are rare and extraordinary days when you have both spoons and f*cks. These days leave you feeling like a superhero because you can both do the things you want to do and you care about doing them. I want to encourage everyone to try their hand at the exercise on the next page.

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